If you have been trying to build a successful internet business for any length of time, you have probably experienced discouragement in some capacity. Preparing for tech changes, finding markets, exc is easy. But no one can prepare you for how to deal with discouragement while trying to get your internet business growing.
When I was working away on growing my internet business, I really did not experience massive amounts of discouragement until I went full-time. Then at that point, it was like everything started to go wrong with what I was doing & for the first time in my adult life I felt depressed and discouraged.
There were days where all I could do was simply check my stats then my email, then my merchant account, then my stats, then my email then my merchant account. That was the cycle of many of my days because of the simple fact that I was discouraged.
The problem was, I had no idea why I was so frustrated and depressed. And you know what? I bet that is how you feel sometimes while your building your internet business…
I’ve been able to consult with 400+ internet business owners (one-on-one) and I can tell you that almost all of them were dealing with this issue and it was sucking the life out of their potential success and business growth.
The problem with discouragement is you think your all alone, you don’t understand what is going on & you feel like a total idiot for feeling like an idiot and being depressed! Talk about a problem! (-:
When I was dealing with this issue in my life, my productivity was really bad, I had no energy and I started to gain weight. I tried motivating myself by reading more self help books & doing the usual things that your taught to do to make yourself feel better & nothing seemed to work!
After a season of this, I started to come around and make some progress in this area of my life. It was only years later that I have been able to figure out why I had such an issue with this and how to prevent it from happening again and potentially destroying my business.
Here’s Why I Got So Discouraged While Building My Internet Business:
First – I Compared Myself To The “Guru’s” I Was Following:
I would buy a product or something and then think that I should somehow get the same results as the person selling that product to me. I figured that if they were doing it, I should be able to get 400 top 10 rankings within the hour too… Then when I could not duplicate the results of the guru’s that I was following I would get really down on myself and buy more stuff which led me to repeat the cycle.
Second – I Had Unrealistic Expectations For My Internet Business:
I somehow figured that I should be able to do better then every single other person who was doing better then me and who was making more money then I was. I somehow figured that if person XYZ was making $200,000 a month – I should be able to do the same thing as well & be able to do it in 1/2 the time they did it in.
I would then create completely unrealistic goals for myself and have expectations that were out of this world. I figured I should be able to rank my sites in the top 10 for the most competitive keywords within weeks of trying. Then when I never achieved the results that I said I should achieve – I would get discouraged, think it was my fault and then eventually quit that project.
Third – I Focused On Instant Results For My Internet Business:
I figured that I should get instant results from everything that I tried. My sites should grow fast, rankings should come overnight, my products should convert right away & I should be able to make each niche market make me $10k a month within the first month.
And what I would do was work from a panic mindset and rush everything. So I always felt that I was behind, never on track and always letting myself down. And what happened was – I DID let myself down and it created discouragement.
Fourth – I Focused Only On The Money:
Now, money is a big part of business and you need it. But the problem was that I focused on it all the time! And when you do that, you never make enough, fast enough and nothing is ever profitable enough. Not only that, by focusing on money all the time you tend to only do things that you think will give you the quick buck.
And you know what happens when you focus on the quick buck! It’s the hardest one to get and it leaves the quickest! By focusing on money to much I was always looking for a quick way to get more traffic, some “secret” that I could leverage to have more success & easy ways to make easy money.
Fifth – I Tried To Control The Things I Could Not Control:
It’s easy to confuse what you can control and what you can’t control within your internet business. You can’t control your rankings, traffic volume, conversion rates or monthly income. You can do things to increase or decrease those numbers but you can’t control them.
And it’s very easy to think you can & that is what I used to do. I’d check my SEO rankings 5 times a day, check my stats all the time, exc. Then when my sales where up, I’d be happy and take my foot off the gas pedal because things were going really good. Then if things went bad, it’d get mad and work really hard.
Sixth – I Tried To Do To Much At Once:
When your starting out with your internet business it is very easy to do everything all at the same time and hope that it is going to work for you. I was using every single traffic source possible, testing every single strategy I could find, listening to every conference call, webinar, exc.
I was killing myself and my mind was a mess because I was over-consuming information and could not mentally digest it and implement it fast enough. And because of this I got discouraged and my results suffered.
The happy ending is that I eventually overcame all these frustrations and got better.
But this is not about me – it’s about YOU! If you don’t deal with this then no amount of traffic is going to fix your business because your going to implode yourself and never actually succeed.
Here’s How You Can Overcome Discouragement & Become UNSTOPPABLE
In Your Internet Business
First – STOP Comparing Yourself To Other People Online:
Look… Your YOU and you need to be okay with being you and accept the fact that you have done some dumb things in your life that you might regret. Move on… Stop looking at every other guru and internet marketer and wonder why it is that they are so successful and your not.
Can I tell you a secret? Most people tell you what they want you to hear and see. Misery does not sell very well – so when it comes to comparing yourself to guru’s and others, you have to realize that most people only let you see the good part of their lives.
So your essentially comparing your “misery” with their “highlight real”…
Don’t do it! They are who they are and you are who you are. The more you focus on YOU, the more your going to discover your unique gifts and strengths and start focusing on them to really grow your business.
For example: I always wanted to be good at SEO and would look at everyone else who was doing it and want to be them. But you know what? I sucked at SEO… I hated every minute of it. So I focused on doing what I could do best and built my business around that.
Then over time the SEO took care of itself through outsourcing, link baiting and other strategies that were easy. And in the end I was able to get lots of SEO traffic and everything else because I focused on my strengths and focused on who I was.
Second – Set A REALISTIC Time Frame For Your Expectations For Your Internet Business:
The reality is that you want to live a bigger life then you are right now. Your not doing this internet marketing stuff because you want less out of your life and want to struggle. It’s important to think big, shoot for the moon and all that other great stuff.
But the bottom line is that you have to have a realistic time frame for getting the results that you want to get. The problem with predicting results in your internet business is that if you have never made $10,000 a month on a consistent basis you have no clue how long it is going to take you to get to that amount of monthly income.
So don’t set yourself up for failure by giving yourself mental deadlines. Just do what is right, do the best you can and let the results take care of themselves. If you do this, your focus will always be on creating, adding value and figuring out how to get to the next level.
Third – Stop Focusing On Instant Results:
Internet marketing is THE WORST fuel you can have when it comes to thinking about instant results. You can check your stats, analytics, email, sales & SEO rankings all day long. And when things are going good it is like a shot of energy. But when things go bad it’s like a punch in the stomach.
So, don’t even look at the scoreboard. I check my stats usually once per week. Why? Because if you check them daily your going to get caught in an emotional roller coaster and you’ll never be able to get out of it. The great thing about checking things once a week is that I can see trends.
I don’t have to be so focused on what is happening day to day as I can see how things are going week to week. And when you do that it evens out the ups and downs in sales and traffic. Also, if your not always thinking about your results, you can be mentally freed up to focus on doing the right things to create results.
Four – Stop Trying To Do To Much When Your Still Part-Time:
I see this all the time with people who are not yet full-time in their internet businesses. They are in 4 markets, using 10 traffic strategies and making NOTHING! I wrote a whole blog post on this issue and you can see it here: How To Finally Go Full Time In Your Internet Business
But the bottom line is that you have to realize you can’t do everything at the same time when your on a limited budget and don’t have any staff. You need to have ONE traffic strategy, ONE market & ONE sales funnel when you are starting out in your business.
Once you can make enough to live on by doing that, then start expanding and diversifying. But if you can’t get a reasonable income out of one market/traffic strategy/sales funnel then your doing something wrong. You’d never start an offline “real business” by doing stupid things you do on the internet.
You’d never become a real estate agent, stock broker & buy a fast food franchise all at the same time. That would be just stupid! So don’t do it online!
Fifth – Be More Strategic About How You Consume Information:
Once you get going with your internet marketing business you can get completely buried with great information as well as lots of garbage… You could literally sit for hours a day and surf forum posts, read blogs, buy products and read emails about how to grow your internet business and get more traffic to your site.
Not to mention reading massive amounts of books, listening to endless amounts of podcasts & audio training programs. Eventually you get completely overloaded and don’t know what to do next. So what you need to do is make sure you are focused on being very strategic in how you consume information.
In most cases, more information just gives you more confidence and makes you feel better about yourself. But in the end, it does not help you because you get so much of it in your head that you don’t know how to process it all. And then you end up getting discouraged and don’t know what to do next so you sit there and don’t do anything.
Cut back on the emails that you read & become laser focused on reading only what you know will help you right now. Forget about interesting stuff that you think will help you down the road. You need to focus on NOW…
Sixth – Take Better Care Of Yourself:
One of the things that happens when your trying to build your internet business is you can easily start to neglect your body in terms of sleep, exercise and eating right. It’s easy to get in the zone of just working so you can get your internet business up to the level that you want it to and then start focusing on those other things like your health.
But here’s the problem – those days never come! Not only that, the better you take care of yourself physically – the faster you will bounce back from discouragement as well as experience it A LOT LESS…
I HATE the gym… Just hate it… Not only that, I absolutely despise eating healthy. But it is the one thing that makes everything work better. I am ruthless about what I eat & I exercise at least 5 times a week without exception. Not only that, I get up at 4:40 am everyday except Sunday when I sleep in till 5:30(ish).
I also include spending time in the Bible and having a set time every day where I just focus on my spiritual life. For me, I take about 1 hour a day and do this. Even when I was still doing both my internet business and my other career (being a pastor) I always maintained this discipline and never regretted it!
THIS IS IMPORTANT: If you want to become unstoppable and get to your goals A LOT faster your going to have to make sure you take care of your engine. I 100% believe there is a direct coloration between healthy living and success in your business.
You feel better, you can concentrate more, your more awake, less sugar lows, less emotional issues & you’ll have WAY MORE energy.
The Bottom Line:
If you can just focus on doing the above 6 things and start implementing them back into your life your going to feel a lot better and your results should start to increase. There is nothing that will kill your success online like discouragement will… But if you can focus and become “unstoppable” your going to get to where you want and need to go a lot faster.
You want to become unstoppable and have more success? Then do the things “average people” online are not willing to do & become the type of person they are not willing to become. It takes time to get results, but I can tell you – it’s worth it! To read more:
http://www.jasonnyback.com/how-to-become-unstoppable/